The Rarely-Talked-About Danger of the “Super Woman” Syndrome (Audio Class)


It’s a scenario that I hate to admit to, but it happens far too often.

I’m having a chaotic week.  I have too much on my plate as it is, and my mind is full of thoughts about how I’m going to get everything done on time.  I drop my son off at school and the teacher asks, “Can you bring in the healthy snacks for Jackson’s class this Friday?”  I immediately answer, “Of course!” and file away another thing I have to coordinate this week.

By the weekend, I’m fried and we are hosting a family BBQ.  Moments before everyone gets here, I’m frantically throwing clothes into the laundry room and trying to wipe down counters and Madelyn walks into the kitchen to ask for a drink and I blow up, sternly telling her to get out of the kitchen and go downstairs so I can finish cleaning.

She huffs off.  I stand in tears at the sink wondering how exactly I let this happen again.

Old patterns run deep — and even for those of us committed to taking back the reigns of our life and working toward more balance and harmony — it is easy to find ourselves functioning under what I call society’s definition of Super Mom.

Ultimately that definition says that I should:

1.  Do all things and meet all needs.

2.  Be all things to all people.

3.  Manage my outer image so that no one sees I’m falling apart inside.

There is a rarely-talked-about trap that happens when we start to function under a societal definition of Super Mom.

And here is the crux of the trap.

The more we try to do all things and meet all needs around us…the less time we actually spend on things that are most important to us.

The more we try to be all things to all people…the more the people that matter most to us tend to get the worst of us. 

The more energy we spend managing our outer image to people…the more exhausted and depleted we become at the core.

In an interview-styled class I gave for Dr. Sara Gottfried’s “Mission Ignition” course on adrenal health, I go deep into the current default mode so many modern mothers fall into, which leads to intense overwhelm, exhaustion, and a deep disconnect with who we are.  Over time, it can feel like we are living someone else’s life for most of our days.

I’ve found it crucial to rewrite your own definition of who you are as a modern woman and mother, in order to bring more calm, clarity, ease, and abundance into  your everyday life.

And I outline 6 critical ways you can begin to do that today in the interview below.

*I know this image says 9 critical ways…just caught that now, but I can’t bring myself to redo the whole video to change that — hope you’ll understand!*

An interview with Lisa Byrne of as part of Dr. Sara Gottfried’s Mission Ignition Adrenal Health Course (Find out more about Dr. Sara at

I’d love to hear from you!  What do you believe is the current societal Super Mom definition, and what is your personal definition, instead?