Dear beautiful mom,
For so long I tried to wrestle stress out of my life.
I would envision going through my days as if I was gliding over a perfectly smooth lake- with no obstacles or challenges – just serene and peaceful.
And with that image, I set out morning after morning trying to figure out how to craft my outer life in such a way that there was no inner stress, no inner overwhelm, no inner tension or pain.
And I’m sure you can imagine how I fared.
Because trying to STOP the stress only causes us more anxiety and overwhelm when stress inevitably rears its head.
Thinking my happy, calm life could be controlled outside of me- kept me drowning in a constant sense of failure and guilt.
Then something shifted.
What if instead of turning OFF stress, I began to turn ON calm?
What if I changed the gameplan?
What if I bolstered my own inner reserves and resiliency so I could glide over the rough waves without being thrown off?
What if I came to peace with my messy, busy, chaotic, gorgeous, real life?
What if I decided to equip myself to live in the life I actually lived in– rather than always trying to change what was mostly out of my control?
And this was exactly where I began my own journe
y into true self-care.
I was the mom who could hardly get through breakfast without a yelling fit and spent most of my days spinning in circles and ready to snap.
The idea of “self care” failed me for a long time because, though I tried to eat well and get exercise, nothing was really helping with my temper and my frazzled mental state.
That is, until I tapped into understanding how my mind and body worked in terms of stress and calm.
That was my turning point.
It was those tools- the tools self-regulation and calming– tools I could actually do in just a few moments right when I was feeling most out of control, that began to change the whole trajectory of how I experienced life and how I experienced motherhood.
We all know the crazy, chaotic parts of life don’t go away – but the chaos feels totally different when you are moving through it feeling happy and calm versus overwhelmed and stressed.
When it comes to living a happy, calm life there is no greater skill than the ability to control your own inner composure when the outer world is trying to push all your stress buttons!
That’s why when I take women through a whole year of self-care study – we always begin with the foundation of Establishing a Calm Mind.
These are the tools that straight to the heart of what it means to live a vital, healthy life on our own terms when it is so easy to spend our days scattered and frazzled.
Hundreds of women who have worked through my full year program have shared with me that the tools they learned in the first pillar (The Calm Pillar) were some of the most life-changing skills, strategies and tools they’ve ever learned.
After hearing the same thing over and over again, I began to feel that offering this as a stand alone pillar of study was my next right move.
And here it is, the stand-alone Calm Pillar option as Happy Calm.
Lifetime learning that gets right to the heart of what makes the biggest difference in how you feel.
When you join Happy Calm you’ll explore establishing a calm mind and body through these unique pathways:
Limbic Calming Tools that regulate your stress triggers from their starting places
Calm Metabolism so we establish a strong start to our days and give our body and mind the raw materials they need to work properly
Adrenal Fatigue & the Overwhelm Spectrum addresses the hormonal underpinnings of chronic stress and what we need to release that cycle of overwhelm and begin healing from within
Mastering the Mental Triggers teaches us to train our mind toward life-giving thoughts – not pop psychology- but right-perspective living so we can befriend ourselves and stop creating a war against ourselves in our own minds
Pathways to Presence: Body Wisdom brings us into calm and clarity through tapping into our body-mind connection and using our physical senses to shift us into a calm presence
Soul Care exercises to acknowledge and tend to the inner work needed for real change in our lives