Becoming a Mother, Again and Again

by Lisa on February 20, 2010

Two weeks ago, I became a mother again.  In the most literal sense for the third time…but in the truest sense it was a spectacular shining moment among thousands of other moments I’ve had these past three years of becoming a mother.

I now know that becoming a mother happens all the time, and will continue for the rest of my life.

It is true there is nothing like being handed your child- the moment of seeing and touching and smelling and nuzzling up to the one that you’ve longed to meet for 9 months.  It is concrete and real and surreal and so deeply fulfilling.

And yet, I become a mother over and over again in subtler, simpler ways everyday.

watching my toddler fall asleep and taking in the stillness of their being

finding the grace to lovingly handle a conflict with a clear, firm and gentle way

heart hurting when I see my child feel awkward meeting new kids in a gym class

having my breath taken away as my daughter spins around and flashes the most stunning crinkled nosed smile

holding hands, kissing bruises, smoothing out conflicts, asking forgiveness, reading books, dancing in the kitchen, struggling over decisions, praying for guidance, feeling lost, snuggling in tight, and folding the laundry…

With my first born, I felt the weight of the world upon my shoulders.  So many decisions to make for this little being.  How could I possibly not mess it up?  How could I work through my awkward, selfish nature fast enough just to enjoy being his mom and rest in that?

This time around, I know I won’t be perfect.  But I trust that I am exactly the person he needs as a mother.  There is a perfect purpose in the Lord’s plan. His timing.  The families He knits together. The lessons and challenges we go through.  The people we are becoming together.  This is my blessing now: to open to trust, settle it in deep inside, let it free up all the dark places, and then open the floodgates of light…and shine.

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Dear friends,

I’ll be spending time getting to know the rhythms of a family made of three little ones for a bit.  Looking forward to coming back to this space when the time comes.

Love, Lisa

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10 Secrets of a Health Coach

by Lisa on November 30, 2009

Photo by Muffet

Photo by Muffet

I was recently asked what my top health tips are that have made the biggest difference in helping women (especially busy moms) get back on track with a healthy lifestyle.  Here are my top ten :

1. Eat foods that naturally hydrate you.

We all know that staying well hydrated helps us stave off cravings, prevents over-eating and supports mental focus and clarity…but many busy moms (and people in general) have a hard time drinking enough water through the day. When we eat foods high in water content (fresh fruits, vegetables, soups) instead of dry snacks like chips or pretzles, we are bolstering our water intake and preventing the dehydration that comes from eating processed foods.

2. Set up like a pro.

Why does it always look so easy on the cooking shows? Because they do 75-90% of the work before they start airing! I encourage my moms to set up a routine early in the day (maybe at naptime or mid-day snack time) to prepare for that night’s meal as if they are airing a cooking show. Measure EVERYTHING out and put in little ramekins. Chop all veggies. Cut or season the meat. Have a counter prep tray and refrigerator prep tray.

This way the mess, time and dishes that go along with the preparation part of a meal are taken care of well before dinner time rolls around (a universally stressful time for moms). This transforms dinner prep into something organized, enjoyable and quick– a win-win for moms trying to cook more healthy home-made meals!

3. Take a breath.

Way too often we eat without our brains even acknowledging it. Many people can relate to wolfing down a snack or meal and looking at an empty plate, bag or bowl wondering where it all went. Digestion starts in our brains (where signals are sent for our stomach to release digestive enzymes).

When we circumvent our minds and eat while doing a million other things, we not only compromise our digestion, but we bypass the opportunity to feel satiated. A simple deep breath before you put anything in your mouth is a quick and effective way to slow down and focus on the food you are about to eat.

4. Focus on one type of taste at a time.

We all know that processed and junk foods are easy to binge on and overeat…but there are some good reasons why this is so. As it turns out, the part in our brain that controls satiety also registers tastes.

When we combine too many different kinds of tastes at once, that part of the brain short circuits so to speak and stops monitoring fullness.  We were meant to eat foods with clean, simple tastes- like those found in nature. Wonder why some spaghetti sauces (something we associate with a salt and savory taste) actually have a higher sugar content than chocolate sauce? Because the food industry knows that if it combine many tastes at once you’ll end up eating more!

5. Keep your goals on green light foods.

Food consumption in modern society has become unnaturally mental– we constantly go about dieting with a focus on restriction and foods that we can’t eat. Turning the table on this pattern frees up the panic and obsessing that happens when we tell ourselves “no”.

I never encourage women to say no to foods– we always set our goals on what foods or wellness practices we are bringing into our days - once you release the restriction, over time the attraction of these forbidden foods wanes and they no longer haunt you.

6. Emphasis cleansing foods to help with weight loss.

Because many toxins are fat soluble, they get stored in our fat cells. A highly toxic body will have a hard time losing weight, because the fat cells are keeping the toxins from circulating through your system.  Supporting our body’s natural ability to detoxify will allow your fat cells to be burned more easily.

7. “I don’t LIKE vegetables”

Many of us have preconceived ideas of the foods we like and don’t like, and we rarely challenge them. If people tell me they “can’t eat” foods like dark leafy greens, brussel sprouts, cauliflower, parsnips (powerful superfoods!) ; I challenge them to try these veggies (just once) in these ways:

* Blend dark leafy greens in a fruit smoothie.

* Roast brussel sprouts, cauliflower, parsnips, eggplant with a bit of olive oil and sea salt in the oven.

It is a rare person who doesn’t come back raving about what they’ve been missing!

8.  Go slow.

Resist the urge to take on too many changes at once. In our quick fix society we are accustomed to jump head first into extreme diet changes only to burn out quickly and go back to old habits.  I coach my clients to work in small, simple, and sustainable changes over time so that the changes become new habits and healthy living, losing weight and having more energy become part of their every day life, not a flash in the pan experience!

9.  Indulge in high quality treats.

It is important not to become a diet martyr when you begin to shift the way you nourish yourself.  Treating ourselves to foods we love and enjoy is essential to our success. One effective way to do this is to switch from poor quality sweets to high quality ones.   It is much harder to overeat high quality dark chocolate– our bodies know when to say enough to a decadent, rich, real food treat - it’s the processed, high fructose corn syrup laden, artificially flavored junk treats that keep us overeating and unsatisfied.

10. Trust that a gentle and loving perspective is powerful and effective.

Drop the “all or nothing” and “no pain, no gain” mentality - extremism fails in the long run every time.  We have been literally sold (check out the revenue from diet books!) on the idea that we need to suffer our way to weight loss and that our weight gain was a form of personal weakness.

Releasing ourselves from this mindset is essential to having a right relationship with food, our bodies and our health.  Eating well feels good, tastes good and is something our bodies were meant to crave.  Many people are shocked they can start to trust themselves again to make healthy choices and keep the weight off.

Do you have a healthy eating “secret” that has made a difference in your life?

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Five Lives {The Artist’s Way: Week 2}

by Lisa on November 15, 2009

One of the tasks to do this week was to list out five things you would be (career wise) if you had five more lives to live other than the one you are living right now.  The key is not to overthink it too much.  Give it some thought, but generate the list fairly quickly.

Here are mine:

1.  Musician : Specifically singer, songwriter and guitar player

2.  Travel photographer

3.  Outdoor Education Instructor

4.  A Homeschooling, Organic Farmer’s Wife

5.  Naturopathic Physician

What I like is that the author doesn’t suggest what this may mean or how to interpret it, but the act of doing it made me really think about the elements of my own interests and dreams…and how I could possibly begin to weave them into my life.  I figure I’ll start by asking my husband to take some organic farming courses :)

What would yours be?

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I finished my “Beginning the Holiday Season” cleanse this week and wanted to check back in with a quick recap.  The great news is that there isn’t a “perfect”  way to do a cleanse.  I used my own ebook as a guide to set up a 3-day plan that worked for my goals and lifestyle.  Most times there will be adjustments along the way (and this time was no exception!)

So here are some of my lessons learned.

1 :: Preparation is key. It’s something I emphasis to others ad nauseum, I know…but I was absolutely reconfirmed in how important it is during this cleanse.  Life doesn’t stop when we start to weave in ways to get healthier, so we have to counter by being ultra prepared for what we want to undertake.

By the second day, I hadn’t stayed on top of cooking ahead, chopping the veggies and cutting up the fruit.  I fell into that “it will take me 1 minute to slice up this cucumber, I’ll do it tomorrow” mindset… and, you guessed it, that was 1 minute too long for the busyness of a day with little ones at home.  So day two ended up having way more adjustments and substitutions that I had planned….which leads me to Lesson 2 –

2 :: Having a goal is essential to help you manage changes along the way! I didn’t want to throw in the towel just because I had prepared poorly, so I went back to why I was doing this in the first place.

My goal was to curb the sugar roller coaster I was on and get back to feeding my body energizing, whole foods. So choosing to have the scrambled eggs the kids were having instead of the planned avocado spread on toast was a good substitute– the option kept in line with my goals and I could keep plugging along.  It would have been just as easy to pop a couple cookies at that point if I didn’t have a clear goal in mind….which leads me to Lesson 3

3 :: Promising to make chocolate chip cookies with your kids during a cleanse may not be the best idea. ‘Nuf said. :)  Try not to set up temptations.  It would have been fine for the kids not to bake homemade cookies for 3 days.  * By the way great chocolate chip cookie recipe at the end of the post :-) *

The Bottom Line:

It felt great to pack three days with lots of healthy and cleansing foods.  I felt invigorated and lighter.  For the most part, the cleanse I planned for (and ultimately did with some adjustments along the way) was a way back to getting in the habit of eating cleaner, higher energy whole foods everyday. It also succeeded in knocking me off the high sugar train I was on after Halloween.  I think I’ll likely try to do a a one-two day cleanse again like this as the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays roll around if I feel myself going a little overboard again on the sweets.

And now as promised :: Granola Chocolate Chip Cookies

{Adapted from Bob’s Red Mill Muesli Chocolate Chip Cookies}

1.  Heat oven to 375 degrees.

2.  Mix 1 cup Bob’s Red Mill Muesli mix, 3/4 cup Whole Wheat pastry flour, 1/2 tsp. Baking Soda, 1/2 tsp Sea Salt in a large bowl.

2.  Wisk together 1/3 cup Applesauce, 3/4 cup Raw Sugar, 1/3 cup melted Coconut Oil, 1/2 tsp Vanilla Extract, and 1 Egg in separate bowl.

3.  Add “wet” bowl to “dry” bowl, and stir until thoroughly mixed.

4.  Add 1/2 cup - 1 cup of Chocolate Chips.

5. Drop by tablespoons on greased cookie sheet. * I chill this dough before baking to help it from coming out too flat * Bake for 10-12 minutes.

6. Enjoy!

Have you ever done a cleanse?  What was your experience like?

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Wow Green Giveaway!

by Lisa on November 11, 2009

My sister is a special needs teacher who is passionate about creating healthy and non-toxic environments for her students.  She works with the school and parents to educate them on dangerous chemicals in cleaning supplies and ways to bring safer cleaning products into the home and classroom.  So when she told me she decided to sell a line of eco-cleaners because she loved them so much, I knew they must be great products!

Best of all, she offered to give away a free Trial Pack to one of my readers!!

The Products:

WowGreen cleaning products are 100% non-toxic, enzyme based cleaners that are safe for your children and pets.  The company is committed to being eco-friendly and so employs 100% biodegradable packaging, as well as refillable bottles.  Every WowGreen product has a refill packet purchase option so that the refillable bottle is not going to waste.

The Giveaway:

One reader will receive a trial size package which contains a generous sample of the window cleaner (safe for all stainless steel appliances, TV and computer screens), all purpose cleaner (great counter top cleaner for the kitchen), laundry detergent and upholstery and carpet cleaner (which can be used on all types of fabric furniture). All of these products are hard working and can be used daily to maintain a green clean for your home.

Click here if you’d like to read more about the products or to get in touch with her directly.

Just leave a comment below. Would love to hear any green cleaning tips you use in your home (or feel free just to say hi!). I’ll choose the winner Saturday Nov 14 at noon.  Good Luck!

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WINNER!  Random.org generated #14…sooo Catie, You Win!  I’ll be sending you an email shortly. Congratulations :)

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